Sometimes you meet the perfect people and everything feels absolutely amazing. Reflecting back, I cherish the moments that have been had. It’s a wonderful feeling being with someone who makes you feel like an amazing, important person. Complete on your own and completed by them. Dependent yet independent.
The person who makes you feel special and loved even when you are silly, embarrassing and would never show your true crazies to the world, they hold your hand and tell you that they can be silly with you because you are wonderful and that the world is missing out because they can’t be silly with us. That person who gets you excited to wake up in the morning because you have to tell them about your dreams, your passions that you’ve missed out telling on during the few hours that you sleep. The person who’s ecstatic as you are to hear your voice and know that you are together, in the world with each other. A kind of joy and magic that you’ve never shared with anyone or felt before.
The person that you want to be honest and genuine to because you want them to know the purest form of you, filter free. You want them to see the ugly, the bad and also the good- the fifty shades of you. Or all hundred of them. The same person that loves all the shades and takes you in, sweat and soul. The kind of person that makes your heart explode with joy and love, the kind of love that they do to you makes you want to shine so bright and scream off rooftops. Because when they say it, it sounds more beautiful than those three words could ever have been.
The kind of person that you can watch sleep for hours and just have comfort with their warmth next to you. To see them sleep soundly like a child, with a little pout of their mouth and to feel them pull you in closer and give you that kind of peaceful sleep knowing you are safe in their arms. To just hear them breathe, chest heaving up and down, which automatically calms you down.
When you find the person that makes you feel more beautiful from one photo that you send them than a lifetime of compliments ever given to you. If they tell you that could wake up to your face after a 1000 years of sleep, you know that you mean the world to them. The highest compliment ever paid.
When they tell you that you are annoying, lazy, inconsiderate, mean, be with them because they see you as a complete, three dimensional person with flaws and all yet they trust to tell you upfront because they know you will take it. They make you realise that they know you aren’t a fragile rose petal who can’t handle the truths about life but a human being, a work-in-progress who would love their advice, comfort and concern and have the courage to brave the reality.
The kind of person whose accomplishments make you happy, their joy gives you pleasure and whose pain brings tears to your eyes. When a person has the power to affect you, be with them. If you’ve ever cried for them and they for you, especially a man, you know you mean the world to them. That person who pushes you to surpass your best, who talks sense into you and keeps pushing you because they know that you are capable of much more and they believe in your potential. They know you can take it and you have the courage to endure what ever may come and know that you give yourself credit for too little.
The person who makes you understand the power of caring for someone else and putting their health, safety and security beyond your own because it’s in these moments you realise who is really there for you and the immense amount of love and passion that can exist between two human beings. Proudly be with the person that makes you want to be a better person not because of pressure but because they instill so much respect and pride in you for them, that you want to strive to work harder for them, everyday of your life to be the best person you could be.
If the person has a scent that makes you feel at home, that you sniff out from a distance, that you keep sniffing on your clothes long after they’ve left, you know you can be with them. They can make you feel like a big massive cuddle and home with a spray of scent, imagine the power of other things. They make you open up your uglies and break down the walls and embrace your vulnerabilities because you know if you fell, they’ll catch you. Because they tell you they are here with the hammer to break the walls down but if ever needed, they will be your rock. Be with them because you know, that despite your reluctance and uneasiness, you will be safe opening up to them and free, more freedom than you’ve ever felt. Be with them because they’ll make you feel like a meek lamb and a wonder woman at the same time.
They won’t make you feel like you are useless or like you are carrying the world’s weight on your shoulders, but they will make you feel like a part of a hell of a great team. One half of it. So that you can lean on them when you are hurting and they know that you can summon every ounce of courage and strength possible to be by their side when they are hurting and to keep them safe.
Be with them if the thought of losing them scares and shakes your insides or if something happening to them will sweep the world from under your feet and like soul mates ring true to its word where a part of your soul lives in them. Not because the worry and burden is something you deserve or are worth of but it makes you realise how real life is and how only real bonds and relationships can be taken into the universe and be counted amongst stars. Not materialistic things. They make you forget about materialistic desires, if they are there, that’s all you need. They will teach you what real love and happiness is and how it is truly branched out of people you care for.
Be with that person who makes you feel so real and alive. Who makes you feel like the best version of you that you’ve ever been. It’s not because they define and determine who you are, but because of your feelings for them, the tendernessness, love and willingness to do anything for them in the world to make them happy are the things that make you feel the most human and feel the essence of your being- the essence of love.
When you find those people, it’s like the perfect tango every danced and ever witnessed. It’s like magic.
– T xx
P.S- once a woman left a comment on my blog. If she ever comes back and reads my post, she should know that it takes ‘two’ to tango. You can’t tango on your own.